Hypothesis

Ambition is part of who I am.  Anyone who doesn't see that doesn't really know me.  Anyone who doesn't embrace that doesn't really understand me.  Anyone who thought they could change that was fooling themselves.

Safety is part of who he is.  Safety, comfort and happiness are what he lives for. Anyone who didn't see that didn't really know him.  Anyone who didn't embrace that didn't really understand him.  Anyone who thought they could change that was fooling themselves.

I knew this about us.  I knew we were opposite in that way.  But all along I thought we could meet somewhere in the middle.  And I don't mean to say that he is never ambitious or I am never happy.  I just mean our default modes are different.  I thought he could teach me a little bit about being content.  I thought I could teach him a little bit about pushing.

What's funny is, I imagine, he is now seeking safety, comfort, and happiness more than ever before.  And I've set a more ambitious path for myself than I ever previously imagined.  We both ran back to our default modes in very big ways.  Maybe it's best to find someone who operates in the same default mode.  At least there is a common language spoken there.